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AF tip of the week + a picture
This was a big one for me. Accepting that under no circumstances could I drink was a game-changer. Itās what worked. Iāve heard that āacceptanceā is key to a lot of peopleās success in sobriety.
For so long weāve turned to booze for every emotion, every event, and everything (good and bad) that we encounter in our lives. Itās not going to be easy to turn it down in the moment, so by making it a non-option we leave no room to budge.
Many people struggle with this because the idea of āforeverā is hard to commit to. So if thatās you, donāt think about it as forever, but as something youāre not willing to do right now.
For this weekās picture, I wanted to share a moment from our trip to the county fair. By making alcohol a non-option, Iām able to be fully present and enjoy my son milking a fake cow. Who wouldnāt want that life? š
Whatās up?
Iām writing this on a Wednesday. Last weekend my mom moved out of my childhood home and into a new (smaller) home that she will call just hers. This was a big step for her in a few ways. It was a big downsize in square footage, and she had to get rid of a lot of things in order to make it work (literally, things wouldnāt fit otherwise). But she moved out of the home that she and my dad spent over thirty years in. Soon weāll have to say goodbye for good to that house - and Iām not ready. š„ŗ
In other (good) news, I only work two days this week and have no plans this weekend. Thereās just something nice about having no weekend plans, am I right?
Anyways, on with more stuff youāre here forā¦
Oh and hereās my latest writing on Medium:
Want to Quit Drinking? Do These 3 Things NOW!
Q & A
You askedā¦
How to support sober-curious friends and not overstep - I want them to live this life!
Hereās what I thinkā¦
The short answer is - to keep doing what youāre doing.
Hopefully, youāre growing and evolving into a better version of yourself now that you donāt drink. And hopefully, your friend will see that and want that too!
Everyone has to make the decision on their own, it canāt be forced - or else it wonāt work. So keep talking about the benefits (without being annoying), tell them that youāre available to chat, be supportive, and make sure to set and keep boundaries for both of you.
If they never come to the sober-side, then they donāt get to experience all the good that it brings. And they will have to live that way. Not you. You still get to live your best AF life regardless of their choices. And remember, itās their choice.
Support your friends wherever theyāre at. Youāre a great friend. ā¤ļø
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You shouldā¦
Listen to
Blairās Story (my episode recording) [Decidedly Dry Podcast]
Read
Have You Ever Wondered If You Are A Normal Drinker? [Thrive]
Watch
Epicurious expert Maggie Hoffman on rise of non-alcoholic drinks, easy recipes to make [CBS News]
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